Prince Not-So-Charming

So I just found out that this guy I’ve been sleeping with a) doesn’t believe that racism exists in America (he’s from another country) and b) all of this COVID-19 "nonsense" is a complete “farce,” to use his language. Otherwise he is charming, polite, good-looking, and well-intentioned. But I just don’t see how we can have fundamental disagreements like these. I feel like slapping him across the face but also want to be mature about it. How do I deal with him? Should I just kick him to the curb? Or is it worth having a discussion? — Anonymous

What We're Sippin': Mint Mojito

• Dealing with lovers (on a good day) can be tough, but when it comes to getting political, well, try and find the peace where you can. Cue a cool, herbal, refreshing cocktail filled with rum that will hug you from the inside out.

Where We're Sippin': A patio bench outside, with a few close friends that remind us how fabulous we are and how annoying everyone else can be.

Mother Teresa

Oh ma'am! I do believe that it's always worth having the discussion. I believe there is inherent value in hearing both sides of the story. Giving each other that respect is important, especially if you're having conversations like these that have nothing to do with the bedroom. But take care in knowing your limit. If the sky is blue and he claims it to be red, then leave him to live in the twilight zone alone.

Ginger Ále

Wow, this guy sounds like a loser. That might be because I believe anyone who negates something like racism in a country like the US or the gravity of a global pandemic, is coming from a place of privilege and ignorance. Normally I’d say toss him out like last season’s anything and find someone who doesn’t make your blood boil like this hoe just did me. However, it is your soul with his, babe, not mine. Clearly you are aware of his good qualities too. If you're inclined to give him the benefit of the doubt (maybe like once?) then I think it's worth sitting down and asking him why he believes the things he does. You may be surprised to find that you both are coming from similar places and values, but have been informed or brought up differently. You may gain some new insight. But in the event that these differences are deeply rooted, then kick him to the mf curb and find a lover who will mask up and speak up.